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You Can Be Satisfied AND Want More

You Can Be Satisfied AND Want More

Every time I think of “wanting it all”, I think of the petulant, spoiled-to-the-core brat of Willie Wonka fame, Veruca Salt. She’s an extreme example of wanting. Spoiled, recklessly self-absorbed, and we all know what happens to her. She faces her unfortunate demise when she falls down the […]

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Are you a “Ho-ho-ho”, a “Ho-hum”, or a “Bah-Humbug”?

Are you a "Ho-ho-ho", a "Ho-hum", or a "Bah-Humbug"?

There are three types of us, it seems, when the holiday season rolls around… which are you? The Ho Ho Ho – Overflowing with holiday cheer, the Ho Ho Ho loves to decorate, shop, wrap, and really revels in the joys and sensory pleasures of the holiday spirit. […]

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A Double-Spaced Life

A Double-Spaced Life

I’d been doing it unconsciously for the last few weeks. And the other day I noticed. I looked at my hand-written to-do list for the day, and between every task listed was a blank line. I’d skipped a space between every list item. Interesting, I thought. And […]

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When you cannot change (no matter how hard you try.)

When you cannot change (no matter how hard you try.)

“A leopard never changes its spots.” Gosh, I hate that saying. I hate it because it’s nonsense. I’ve changed my spots many times. They’re changing right now, as a matter of fact. And I know many, many people who have drastically and dramatically changed themselves at the […]

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Four Out of Four

Four Out of Four

  When I was in my early twenties, taking public transit everywhere, on the south side of Chicago, I was harassed by men, every single day. Regularly cat-called, propositioned, sometimes they flashed their dicks or masturbated at red lights while I stood at the bus stop. Sometimes […]

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Stuck? A Super Simple Shift that Can Change Everything

Stuck? A Super Simple Shift that Can Change Everything

“Why do I keep attracting unavailable men?” “Why can’t I maintain healthy boundaries with my mother?” “Why do I still hurt so much, when we broke up so long ago?” “Why am I so afraid to ask for what I want?” “Why do I always feel taken advantage […]

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Self-Care and its Slippery Shadow

Self-Care and its Slippery Shadow

When does the self-nurturing act of nesting and withdrawing from the world turn into debilitating isolation? How does self-care turn into self-sabotage? When do our once-effective practices for self-care become self-destructive? When does the sacred pause become a stuckness, viscous and muddy, and seemingly impossible to break […]

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The End: Reflections on The Burlesque Experience & Life Itself

The End: Reflections on The Burlesque Experience & Life Itself

Eight years ago this summer, a number of events and “chance” meetings and connections and sparks and ideas came together in a combustible, most unplanned, unexpected way, and me and my friend Matt (yeah, the Matt I’ve been engaged to for the last five years!) got this […]

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The Truth About Your Relentless Inner Critic

The Truth About Your Relentless Inner Critic

“The day of unfailing, gorgeous confidence isn’t coming. Self-doubt will always be a part of what we each work with as we take steps to play bigger.” – Tara Mohr Sorry to share this dismal news, but guess what? It really isn’t that dismal, I promise. Keep […]

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My Summer of Reinvention & Transformation

My Summer of Reinvention & Transformation

Hey there, friends! It’s been a while since I’ve blogged. And what huge changes my life has been experiencing this summer. You may have noticed and heard some things, I’ve shared some with you already. I’ve been in reinvention mode this summer, allowing life to unfold, practicing surrender, learning […]

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