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A Real Pain in the Ass

A Real Pain in the Ass

I woke up this Tuesday morning, stepped out of bed, and within my first couple steps, I was staggering in breath-taking pain. WTF. Sharp, intense, shooting up my back and down my leg, and centralized in my ass, right side, this pain has made a rude and […]

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The Pretending is Killing Us

The Pretending is Killing Us

“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths.” – M. Scott Peck There is a certain sadness in us all… We walk around in our day to day lives, pretending it isn’t there, doing what we need to do to move through […]

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The Stupid, Terrible Choices of the People We Love

The Stupid, Terrible Choices of the People We Love

One late, balmy night this past summer, I’m on the phone with my little brother, my brilliant and very gifted and very drunk brother. He’s a thousand miles away, literally and figuratively. He has struggled with alcoholism for half of his life, he is crying. He is […]

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More, Please.

More, Please.

Show me a hundred people and I bet I can show you 95 of them or so who will say 2016 has been a rough one. It came with its blessings and gifts, of course, but it also brought a seemingly higher proportion of loss, tragedy, difficulties, […]

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I Got My Feelings Hurt

I Got My Feelings Hurt

It happens to all of us. It happened to me. I had planned a home party for a line of adult products, and invited pretty much every DFW woman I thought might be interested– 300+ to be exact. I created this picture in my mind of what […]

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Can you be with this feeling?

Can you be with this feeling?

Can you be with this feeling? This is the question I hear, in my mind, in this moment, when I am in a lousy, cranky, hormonal, bitch-on-wheels mood. The sun is shining, it’s a perfect afternoon, there is much to be grateful for, I know. But sometimes […]

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To Be with Our Emptiness

To Be with Our Emptiness

We are, each of us, introduced to our emptiness at some point in our lives. Some of us come into contact with it as children, some of us as adults. But at some point, we begin to notice it, feel it. It aches deep within us, constantly, […]

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Undress Your Desires

Undress Your Desires

There was a time in my life when I wanted nothing more than a pair of designer jeans. I’m talking deep, red hot, burning desire. I’m talking my whole-life-will-change-when-I-get-these-jeans desire. I’m talking my life– my real life—will finally start once I get these jeans. I was about […]

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The Healing Power of a Crappy Mood

The Healing Power of a Crappy Mood

Why is it we say we are “in pain”, when really the pain is in us? Why is it we say we are “in a mood”, when really the mood is in us? It’s not out there. We contain that world of hurt, in us. We contain […]

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To Feel or To Numb, the Always-Question

To Feel or To Numb, the Always-Question

It happens to all of us. There are none of us immune, or above it. So-called “enlightenment” does not protect us from this very human, primal, lizard-brain response. As long as we are walking around in these skin-suits, we must acknowledge our totality– and that totality includes […]

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