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My Big, Bad, Beautiful Year

My Big, Bad, Beautiful Year

It’s that time of year. Time to start processing 2015, the things we’ve learned, the ways we’ve changed, what we’ll be taking with us into 2016. What we’d like to leave behind. I know so many of you have had such important, monumental shifts and smaller but […]

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Are You a Hot Mess? The New Archetype in Town and Why She’s Dangerous

Are You a Hot Mess? The New Archetype in Town and Why She's Dangerous

hot mess – noun – informal: a person or thing that is spectacularly unsuccessful or disordered. (Google dictionary) Jenna is a client of mine who seems to travel with a tornado whirling around her. There are usually papers flying around her, she’s chronically late and she has […]

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A Big, Bold, Brave and Slightly Terrifying Announcement

A Big, Bold, Brave and Slightly Terrifying Announcement

I’ve always said I didn’t find burlesque, it found me. And in the same vein, I didn’t just create the Burlesque Experience, but in many ways, it has created me. For nearly five years, four times a year,  a group of a dozen or so women have […]

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To Feel or To Numb, the Always-Question

To Feel or To Numb, the Always-Question

It happens to all of us. There are none of us immune, or above it. So-called “enlightenment” does not protect us from this very human, primal, lizard-brain response. As long as we are walking around in these skin-suits, we must acknowledge our totality– and that totality includes […]

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Ditch the Shame

Ditch the Shame

When I was in the sixth grade, my parents had this great set of books about “growing up”… which of course, meant these books were about SEX. This was thrilling to me. Included in the set was a “Parent’s Guide” with questions and answers about sex, so […]

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Go on. Have Your Moment.

Go on. Have Your Moment.

Self-pity. Anger. Neediness. Victimhood. Sadness. Jealousy. Abandoned. Hurt. Rage. Heartbreak. Defeated. Depression. Darkness. If you’re like me, this list might be titled “My Least Favorite Feelings.” Truth be told, I’d rather feel nothing at all than feel any of these. If I were allowed to choose my […]

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What if? A proposition for your Soul

What if? A proposition for your Soul

  What if you replaced shame with compassion? What if you replaced guilt with patience? What if you chose to see the alleged “flaws” in your character as the most tender, delicate parts of you, in most need of love? What if you decided to call a […]

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You’re Sexy and You Know It

You’re Sexy and You Know It

“When I walk in the spot (yeah), this is what I see (ok) Everybody stops and they staring at me I got passion in my pants and I ain’t afraid to show it, show it, show it, show it… I’m sexy and I know it.” -LMFAO You’ve […]

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The terrible truth about speaking your truth

The terrible truth about speaking your truth

“Speak your truth…” The memes declare. “Be authentic!” We are preached at. “Keep it real!” and so the messages go. We know, deep down, that truth-telling is a brave route on our path of growth. That doesn’t make it easy. There are some truths about speaking the […]

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Trying to change? Stop trying so hard.

Trying to change? Stop trying so hard.

  Stop trying to change. You’ve already been down that well-worn path. Where has it led you? Most likely to a lonely, frustrated place– a place of feeling bad about yourself and your ‘inability’ to make change stick.  If you’ve been pushing and pulling yourself toward change, […]

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