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The Opposite of Funny: Enough with the Body-Shaming “Jokes”

The Opposite of Funny: Enough with the Body-Shaming "Jokes"

I’m fed up this morning and I’ll tell you why. I have cringed over many a meme that shames a woman for her fat that is exposed. A woman who is oversized by our culture’s standards has no business showing off her body, as we know. If […]

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The Tyranny of Boob Padding

The Tyranny of Boob Padding

It was a sexy new little navy blue chemise and I was excited to ‘premiere’ it for my partner.  Its stretchy satiny fabric felt good on my skin, it hugged my curves in all the right places and the light padding built into the chest area made […]

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Call a Truce With Your Belly Now

Call a Truce With Your Belly Now

If I asked fifteen women to write down the self-critical thoughts they’d had within the first ten minutes, upon entering a retreat classroom, twelve of them would include a mean thought toward their belly… I can feel my gross stomach hanging over my jeans. I wore the […]

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Body-Shaming is the Opposite of Funny. Enough, already.

Body-Shaming is the Opposite of Funny. Enough, already.

I’m fed up this morning and I’ll tell you why. I have cringed over many of a meme that shames a woman for her fat that is exposed. A woman who is oversized by our culture’s standards has no business showing off her body, as we know. […]

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“You Used to Be A Heartbreaker”: Reflections on Aging & Self-Love

“You Used to Be A Heartbreaker”: Reflections on Aging & Self-Love

I’ve been 42 for almost a year now, and I’ll tell you, it’s been an interesting ride. As I inch toward my forty-third birthday, coming in about two months, I notice my contradictions are alive and well. Anyone who says they live in perfect harmony all the […]

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It’s Good to be Queen

When a woman falls in love with herself, the world heals. I’ve built my life around this truth. We’ve spent so much of our lives, walking around wounded, feeling less than, never enough, too this, not enough that, always falling short. To be able to grow away […]

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Coming Home: The Miracle of Self-Acceptance

Something has shifted in me, something big, important, true and real. I have crossed a threshold that I didn’t even know existed. It could be an age thing. I am about to turn 42. I’ve heard about these shifts from women in their forties and fifties. Maybe […]

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Return to the Body

Return to the Body

If me and my body were Facebook friends, our relationship status would be “it’s complicated.” It’s not that I’m not grateful for it, I am. The fact that my body is an amazing machine full of elaborate and miraculous mechanisms is not lost on me. Chronic pain […]

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Beyond Belly Abominations

Beyond Belly Abominations

If I asked fifteen women to write down the self-critical thoughts they’d had within the first ten minutes, upon entering a retreat classroom, twelve of them would include a mean thought toward their belly… I can feel my gross stomach hanging over my jeans. I wore the […]

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This is what love looks like.

This is what love looks like.

My teen daughter and I have started this fun tradition of writing love notes for each other with dry-erase markers on our shared bathroom mirror… things like “Hey gorgeous!” and “You are beautiful!” and “I love you so much!” and other sweet somethings. Yesterday morning, I had […]

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