“I hate Valentine’s Day. It’s just a made-up holiday!” My friend complained to me, exasperated once again by the pressures, expenses and obligations wrapped up in February 14th.
“All holidays are made-up holidays, aren’t they?” I replied. We chuckled… and realized it’s true.
If you’re not into Valentine’s Day, if you find yourself crabby or resistant toward it, and that’s working for you, by all means, stick with your strategy.
However, if it’s a made-up holiday, you can make it mean anything you want it to mean.
Here’s the real kicker: It’s all made-up. Everything. You’re making it all up now.
Whatever belief you hold about Valentine’s Day, about love, romance, about men, about relationships: You made it up.
And Life, being the magnetic and responsive co-creator that she is, has been eagerly collecting evidence, old and new, to support your beliefs, so that your beliefs are validated by your experiences.
It’s crazy and magical and powerful and true. And it’s a tremendous responsibility, being a creator of beliefs and experiences.
So this Valentine’s Day, are you open to an attitude adjustment?
What non-awesome beliefs are you supporting? What less-than-empowering beliefs are you choosing? Here are some I hear often:
– There are no “good men” left.
– I am only attracted to the bad boys and jerks. Nice guys bore me.
– Why do I always fall in love with unavailable men?
– What is wrong with me that I can’t find love?
– Once I lose the weight, I’ll be able to start dating again.
– When I find him, my life will be complete.
And how are those beliefs working for you? Are you ready for something different?
Choose your beliefs carefully. They become your reality.
How to reverse an embedded non-awesome belief? Here’s one of my favorite tricks. Have an arsenal of rebuttals ready and then bomb the belief with your rebuttals every time you find yourself engaging in the belief.
For example, let’s take the belief “All men are jerks.”
Arsenal of Rebuttals:
- No they’re not.
- I can name ten awesome men I know right now…
- I am lucky enough to watch my bestie in love with a great guy.
- I’ve had some crappy experiences, but I have to trust there are some awesome men out there.
- I know there’s someone out there who will be a great match for me.
Initially, you needn’t even believe your rebuttals. Just bomb the belief. Over and over again. Eventually new synapses start to take place in your brain. Your subconscious starts seeking new evidence, to support these repetitive rebuttals. Slowly but surely, they become beliefs and a world of new possibilities is opened.
What if Valentine’s Day was about celebrating the love of your life? YOU.
There is no one else as committed to living with you as you are. No one else who can love you as well as you can. No one else as deserving of your own love and affection as you are.
So what if you started a tradition this year, that Valentine’s Day is a time for self-pampering? For spoiling yourself. For extra treats and decadences. Hold yourself in high regard and court yourself like a lover.
What if Valentine’s Day was an opportunity to celebrate your divinely bestowed sensuality? Celebrate your senses and all the pleasures you are entitled to, simply because you are alive. Taste, smell, touch, hear. There is just so much, everywhere, for you to savor.
If you’re finding Valentine’s Day to be a dreaded, high-pressure, or alienating event, what if you made Valentine’s Day simply about LOVE and celebrated accordingly? Express your love to all those you come in contact with. It’s a made up holiday, after all! Make it up to your liking. Redefine it, make it matter, celebrate your divine core, which is love!
Spread the love… Share below the loving, sweet things you’ll be doing for yourself this Valentine’s Day, to celebrate your very essence: LOVE.