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The Stupid, Terrible Choices of the People We Love

The Stupid, Terrible Choices of the People We Love

One late, balmy night this past summer, I’m on the phone with my little brother, my brilliant and very gifted and very drunk brother. He’s a thousand miles away, literally and figuratively. He has struggled with alcoholism for half of his life, he is crying. He is […]

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I Hate Vulnerability

I Hate Vulnerability

  It was a crossroads moment. I was feeling hurt. A few friends were planning a special get-together, and I couldn’t make it on the night in discussion, told them so, and hoped another date would thus be chosen. It wasn’t. There they were… those sucky feelings […]

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Inclement Weather Announcement

Inclement Weather Announcement

I’m not sure if you clicked and opened this link because you usually do, or if the subject line piqued your curiosity, but either way, I’m glad you did. There’s something important I want to share. When I worked at MoveStudio as Marketing Manager, I was responsible […]

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Warning: Some People Don’t Want You to Grow

Warning: Some People Don't Want You to Grow

Shining too bright, eh? Not everyone likes when you grow. When you quake, it shakes their ground, too. Especially the people closest to your fault line. Understand this: You are an evolving creature, radiating brighter than ever before, making empowered choices. You are changing. And some people hate […]

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Adventures with Ego (My Clever, Cunning Sidekick)

Adventures with Ego (My Clever, Cunning Sidekick)

You may have heard me say many times that I am not an “ego-basher”. I don’t wish to kill my ego, or destroy it, or even transcend it at this point, because, well, I’m human and I’m here to have a human experience, and egos come in […]

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Save some you for you.

Save some you for you.

Somewhere along the line, we learned that putting ourselves first was bad. Somewhere along the line, we began believing that the needs and wants of others without regard of our own. Somewhere along the line, we gave and we gave and we gave, until one day, we […]

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The terrible truth about speaking your truth

The terrible truth about speaking your truth

“Speak your truth…” The memes declare. “Be authentic!” We are preached at. “Keep it real!” and so the messages go. We know, deep down, that truth-telling is a brave route on our path of growth. That doesn’t make it easy. There are some truths about speaking the […]

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Lower the Drawbridge, C’Mon!

Lower the Drawbridge, C’Mon!

“The refusal to ask for help is a kind of sickness in itself. The refusal to ask for help is not rugged individualism but ragged individualism and it is a function of fear. Not that there’s nothing to fear. Asking for help is a formidable art and […]

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Boundaries, Baby!

Boundaries, Baby!

I have a saying about boundaries: You usually don’t know what one is until it’s been crossed. I have a new boundary that I’d like to declare, based on some recent not-so-pleasant experiences. Without going into details, and keeping in mind that there are two parts to […]

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Getting the Support You Need

As an occasional offering, I invite you to write with your questions or topic suggestions. I will answer all either privately or in this space. It’s my intention that my words will bring hope and new clarity. Here’s one… Dear Lisa, I could use some perspective on […]

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