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Those Undesirable Unmentionables: Hello, Shadow!

Those Undesirable Unmentionables: Hello, Shadow!

“I just want to lose my desire for love. I hate needing approval. I hate being needy. I’ve asked the Universe to remove these defects in me. This neediness in me is pathetic.” A new client wrote this to me last week, and when I read it, I felt […]

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The Opposite of Funny: Enough with the Body-Shaming “Jokes”

The Opposite of Funny: Enough with the Body-Shaming "Jokes"

I’m fed up this morning and I’ll tell you why. I have cringed over many a meme that shames a woman for her fat that is exposed. A woman who is oversized by our culture’s standards has no business showing off her body, as we know. If […]

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Hot & Holy: Sex, Soul and the “Sacred Slut”

Hot & Holy: Sex, Soul and the "Sacred Slut"

We were divinely designed for pleasure. We are born sexual. We are wired for intensity. We are wild, beastly, messy, sticky, erotic creatures. We burn deeply with desires, some we would never dream of naming. Yet through a hundred thousand messages, religion, lies, experiences and for many […]

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Shameless

Shameless

“It’s hard to dance with the Devil on your back.” – Florence + the Machine This isn’t the first time I’ve written about shame, and it won’t be the last, unless by some amazing miracle, it’s eradicated once and for all. Maybe then I’ll write a blog […]

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Ditch the Shame

Ditch the Shame

When I was in the sixth grade, my parents had this great set of books about “growing up”… which of course, meant these books were about SEX. This was thrilling to me. Included in the set was a “Parent’s Guide” with questions and answers about sex, so […]

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Body-Shaming is the Opposite of Funny. Enough, already.

Body-Shaming is the Opposite of Funny. Enough, already.

I’m fed up this morning and I’ll tell you why. I have cringed over many of a meme that shames a woman for her fat that is exposed. A woman who is oversized by our culture’s standards has no business showing off her body, as we know. […]

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Mean-Spirited Roadhouses and Other Detours

Mean-Spirited Roadhouses and Other Detours

“Gamble everything for love, if you’re a true human being. If not, leave this gathering. Half-heartedness doesn’t reach into majesty.   You set out to find God, but then you keep stopping for long periods at mean-spirited roadhouses.” – From “The Essential Rumi” (translated by Coleman Barks) […]

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Coming out of the dark: dumb mistakes and lovely little miracles

Coming out of the dark: dumb mistakes and lovely little miracles

Sunday evening,  I was driving to my fiance’s place. Like I’d done a thousand times. I know that route like the back of my hand. Which is why I must have thought it was okay to text while driving. Yes. I was texting. While driving. Suddenly, a […]

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Three Years Ago Today

Three Years Ago Today

Three years ago today, I loaded up the U-Haul and moved out of my 17-year marriage, began a new life and while it was what I needed to do, it was the most difficult, painful thing I have ever done. I am lucky enough to have an […]

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The Sacred Disconnect

The Sacred Disconnect

This spiritual path you are traveling is exactly the one you are meant to travel. All of it is part of the journey. All of it is sacred. Yes, all of it. Often we feel we are on the “right” spiritual path until things go “wrong,” and […]

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