It happens every year. Millions of us start the year with determination and resolve…
This is The Year.I will eat healthier. I will exercise more. I will create new habits to work toward my dreams…
And then, one by one, by February, almost all resolutions have been dumped by the side of the road, like last year’s Christmas tree.
And does that mean you failed at resolutions, or did the resolutions fail you?
There are a few theories I have about why this happens, why we start strong with such good intentions, such fierce determination, only to eventually fizzle out.
The bottom line is this. Resolutions rarely work.
Yet we are so quick to blame ourselves.
If I was just determined enough, disciplined enough, focused enough, we often think. If only I had more will power.
Ahh, will power. That evasive, invisible force that seems to start strong and fresh each morning, only to evaporate by day’s end.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing what I’ve learned about change, commitment, creating healthy new habits and ditching old, unhealthy ones, in hopes that you’ll feel extra supported as you move deeper into 2018, hopefully with your commitments strengthening.
But here’s where it starts, my lovely friend.
You must believe you are worthy of your desires.
You’ve gotta believe, all the way to your core, that you deserve this.
And I think all too often, deep down inside, we don’t really believe in our own deservability.
Getting healthier takes extra time and effort. Shopping, chopping, slicing and dicing veggies for a salad is, ugh… so much more time-consuming and expensive than say, Jack in the Box drive-thru.
And you are so worth it.
The next time you are going the extra mile for yourself, hassling over yourself, chopping, dicing, juicing, getting your butt to the gym in cold, crappy weather, paying for dance classes, whatever that extra effort might be, what if you turned your effort or extra hassle into an act of devotion, instead? An act of worthiness and deservability. An act of love.
What if you repeated this to yourself, over and over? I am worth the effort.
Baby, I’m worth it.
Think about the things you have done for others that are time-consuming and take extra effort.
Maybe you drove all over town looking for that special Christmas list item for your kid. Because your children are worth the effort.
Maybe you are dating someone you’re crazy about and you spent hours in the kitchen preparing a special dinner for them. Because that person is worth the effort.
Maybe you spent hours knitting that scarf for your favorite cousin. Because she is worth the effort.
It’s so easy to do these extra things for the people we care about, because they are worth it. Their smiles, their satisfaction, their happiness matters to us.
And you, my friend, are also worth the effort. You are so worth the effort.
I’ll never forget my fantastic client Jennifer, that told me how her amazing, succulent wild woman, poet aunt, responds, when receiving a gift from someone…
“You are so good to me, and I am so deserving.”
Don’t you just love that?
We are so deserving.
And in a couple weeks, (or days!) when your resolutions or intentions for 2018 start to lose their luster, falling flat, like the carbonation fizzled out of a soda… remind yourself.
You are worth the effort.
Every ounce of extra effort it takes for you to be, do or have whatever it is you want, is worth it.
Because you are deserving, so deserving.
Believe it, know it.
And remind yourself, as you course down the aisles of that pricey health food store, or write that check for the yoga pass, or power through cravings as you break that nicotine habit, or dice and slice and chop your ingredients all Sunday afternoon for your weekly meal prep.
I am so deserving.
Baby, I’m worth it.